You see you had a lot of crooks try to steal your heart, Never really had luck, couldn’t never figure out how to love. See you had a lot of moments that didnt last forever. Now you in this corner tryna put it together ,how to love. “


Listened to this song again,‘HOW TO LOVE” by LIL WAYNE today and it got me thinking why we have so many years of education and yet nobody ever taught us how to love ourselves and why it’s so important. Ever thought about that? Maybe it is just not in society’s best interest to teach us to love ourselves but rather to tell us what we deserve. This is because when we start to love ourselves we would know that we deserve more and would advocate for better. We wouldn’t put up with abusive relationships, toxic friends who constantly put us down and please allow me to throw trashy TV shows and over cooked spinach in there. When we learn to love ourselves, we become fearless individuals but no, society doesn’t need that. All it needs is a people who are broken from the inside and fit into the system without making trouble.

Personally, I never learned how to love myself at an early age and I wish I did. To be honest I suffered from low self esteem for a very long time. I just didn’t think I was good enough,smart or pretty enough. I constantly wanted to be like other people. This caused a strain on both my personal and social life. I had myself convinced that if I had a solid group of best friends and a boyfriend then I was worth something. I ended up attracting toxic friends and abusive men in my life who preyed on my insecurities. All this broke me and it made me think that I didnt deserve to be treated right.

It took me 5 years to learn that I have to be the one to love myself and to really understand the importance of it. I wasn’t going to sit around waiting for someone to teach me. I had to do it myself by putting myself first ,my happiness,goals and dreams before anything else. I became more confident in my body, skin and colour and trust me,things got better and my life got on track again.

DON’T EVER PUT YOURSELF DOWN AND NEVER EVER LET ANYONE PUT YOU DOWN. You are beautiful just the way you are and believe me that body is perfect. I know how hard it is to feel confident and good enough but it is possible. No one can love you better than you darling and no one is ever going to teach you that. You’ll have to do it yourself. There is nothing better than a man or woman who walks with confidence knowing that they are good enough and that they deserve the very best life has to offer.what if you simply devoted this year to loving yourself more?

Ever struggled with Self esteem issues? Let’s share in the comment section.

Randomthoughts ❤


38 thoughts on “HONEY, LOVE YOURSELF FIRST..”

  1. A beautiful article – and so true to the core – we have to give ourself the best and then we attract that all the time 🌟shine on in you light because that’s who you are meant to be – shine with your soul , speak your mind and don’t listen to the society crap. I had friends bullying me – because I attracted that – but no more because you know your worth!!!!

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    1. Exactly Rupika. I was bullied too at some point in my life and that’s because I wasn’t confident enough to even stand up for myself. But everything changes once you learn to love yourself. Thanks for taking your time hun.❤❤

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  2. Really very happy to say,your article is very interesting and educative to read.I never stop myself to say something about it.You’re doing a great job.Keep it up

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  3. love this!! I think we all have to deal with feeling insecure and indadequate sometimes. What makes it so bad is that the feelings are dealt to us by the hands of someone we care about. It’s so hard to tell ourselves that we are enough without waiting for the validation of others but it is so absolutely neccessary.

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  4. Society DOES need that though and it needs it bad! We should love ourselves for who we are and we also need to learn to love others for who they are! Stop judging people based on appearances, manner of dress, or anything other than character and just love and accept people. Get to know each other, give people a real chance to show who they are and what kind of heart or soul they have…because that is what really matters! Love this! Amen!!! 🙂

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  5. I really needed to read this. I struggle with self esteem and have been in some abusive relationships. I’m learning to love myself for who I am and at the same time loving others unconditionally. You are a great writer and I’ve always loved that song. Thank you

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    1. I am sorry you’ve had esteem issues love. Trust me, it gets better. Its really great that you are learning to love yourself because it’s the only key. You’ll get there. Sending so much love your way right now. THANK YOU for taking your time❤❤

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  6. Yes, I agree we need to love ourselves first in this wicked world. People do trample all over us if we let them because we do not have a good opinion of ourselves. I ma happier ever since I learned I was worth something and I was a good person. Those bullies learned a lesson along the way as well. Great writing and keep loving yourself Trizah !!

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  7. Self esteem. i have had times when i struggled with it. I think we all do from time to time and someone who says they have never felt a lack of self esteem must be taking extraordinary or they are just not telling the truth! Nice post with good ideas.

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