I was having dinner with this guy I was kind of going out with and we were talking about women empowerment and he made some chauvinistic comment I didn’t like at all. He said that we women of “nowadays,(whatever that means) ,once we get an education and a job,we think we are superior than men not knowing that we won’t get husbands because of it. Wow! Ever heard anything more shallow or chauvinistic? Before I go on, I’m sure it would please you to know that I am not seeing him anymore!
Anyway, who told people that women’s ultimate goal is to get a husband? Is it written anywhere that getting married is an achievement? Before we continue,I’d like to share something with you. I talked to two ladies on their views on marriage and this is what they had to say;Lets start with CLAIRE ;;
“In my point of view,I think marriage is important but not a necessity,for a balance of nature one needs a companion,a soul mate ,your soul mate can be a man or a woman .a husband is not that of a necessity since you can choose one who will drain your ass out and make your life a living hell ,I don’t think having a husband is all that important but getting a soulmate who you can travel the world with and achieve your dreams together is all that matters“
Then finally I talked to MAUREEN GACHERI and these were her sentiments ;
“Well, I think I want a family, but marriage to me is Not really a priority. But I don’t really wanna be alone, like I want someone to gossip my kids with, even if he is just the father of my kids and we not married . I think a child would complete me more than a husband.”
I am so over chauvinistic comments and all the unrealistic expectations placed on the shoulders of a modern woman. Its like a woman can’t even have some little fun anymore,drink,smoke or go out in peace because of some shallow souls out here who are always going on about how,” a woman who drinks,smokes or goes out will never get a husband?? Really?? First of all, why do we view marriage as a podium of success where a woman gets a trophy to validate how “woman enough” she is. Why do we look at marriage as an award to declare how successful a woman is? This is very backward and primitive. A proper woman in the African tradition has always been imagined within the context of the family. She is expected to accept marriage and have children because marriage is assumed to be the end goal for most African women. The only thing she is supposed to be concerned about is her family and children,nothing more. She is not supposed to be too educated and if she is,the is not “African enough” RIDICULOUS!
I’ve seen instances where some tribes men advice their sons not to marry a woman who is too educated,a woman who is woke! Simply because the educated/woke woman is less susceptible to manipulation is ‘hard headed’ and would “sit” on the man. This does not make sense. Personally,I believe that a man who has a secure sense of masculinity has no issues going for a woman who is more educated, a woman who earns more, a woman who is empowered.
To a woke modern woman, a husband is just a bonus and I’d like to reiterate the fact that,For some of us, getting a husband/marriage is not the ultimate goal in life! We want to get our PhDs, travel the world and have fun while at it. STAY WOKE ladies. Lets continue the discussion in the comment section ,thank you.