Playing the dating game can be very risky, you know, with all the dating apps people use these days. First dates can be nerve wrecking especially because you never really know who you are about to go out with and if you’ve also heard dating horror stories like the one am about to tell you. See ,I don’t think anyone exists who has not had a good bad date story at some point. I’ve had a fair share of bad dates myself, So grab a strong drink and revel in my misfortune. Laughing is allowed, don’t shy away.
I met this guy online, yes,online, lol. He had hit my inbox,so first I stalked his profile .wait , every girl does this,right? Like when someone in boxes/ DMS you,you first check there profile and from there you know whether or not you’ll reply. Well,I did that, and something caught my eye. He was an advocate, as per his job prescription and his wall was full of political/law/leadership stuff. Well,am studying law so this seemed interesting. I texted back, we exchanged numbers. We started talking and texting then after some time, he asked me out on a date. I agreed, I mean,free food,wine and conversation never killed anyone.
He was to pick me up at 7:30 pm on a Friday ,in his ‘ride’. So at exactly 7:30 pm,he was outside the gate of where I stayed and he calls me. I wasn’t ready though because I was indecisive on what to wear.(girl problems). I told him to give me 15 more minutes of which he agreed. It never occurred to me that it had pissed him off ,that’s until I went down to meet him. He was obviously pissed,it showed all over his face,I mean,he couldn’t even conceal it. I noticed other things too,like,the pictures he had sent me and those on his social media didnt accurately reflect the way he looked.(Hey ,I don’t judge people by the way they look).He was very short so when we hugged,his face went directly into my chest. No problem….. except he wouldn’t let go,he just kept his face there.
We got into the car and drove off. He didnt ask me where I preferred to go because ,apparently, he wanted to take me to this one place off Kiambu road. His driving was so wreck less,I mean REALLY bad. He drove like he was running from the police, then stopped at some place and made me wait in the car for 15 minutes. Mmmh! He comes back,no apology he just starts driving. I was glad when we reached our destination in one piece. It was some club whose name I won’t mention because I have nothing good to say about it. First of all, who takes a girl to a first date in a club. To make matters worse,the DJ was playing filthy music,the place was full of old people, trust me,one could easily confuse it for a home for the elderly, no offense. I just kept cool,or as the millennial say, I ‘maintained’ because I didn’t want to seem rude.
He asked me what i wanted to drink and i said wine . Then he’s like, “why not whisky, you should drink whisky blah blah” ,he insisted and insisted but i stuck to wine. He ordered beers for himself. At some point ,the waitress confused orders and he was very rude. He shouted at her,embarrassing her and created a whole unnecessary scene. I tried to calm him down and he said I reminded him of his mother….like it was a good thing.(rolls eyes” .He was one arrogant man with an ego the size of Russia. He wore dark sunglasses throughout the entire date and talked about himself the entire time. He kept interrupting me ,so rude! Then ,after 20 excruciating minutes of his endless self praise and his love for reptiles ,he starts torturing me with stupid/awkward questions like, ” so,do you like sex?” “Can you have sex on a first date?” like seriously? Ooh ,wait for it,he started being touchy while pretending to be drunk .Dude?! Which man gets drunk after 2 sips of tusker cider, wait, are men even allowed to take Tusker cider. My dear people, I have seen things….’sighs’
At this point ,I was so done with him. I needed to be far more drunk for this shit so I chugged that wine like no one business. I got tipsy, just enough to deal with him. I had lost my patience and I was PISSED, I could no longer maintain. So when he tried to touch me again, I slapped his hand off so hard. I gave him a piece of my mind, I was like “I’ve had enough, I don’t like you ,I don’t like this place and I’m off.” I grabbed my purse, stormed out,(just like in the movies) I called a cab ,left and I’ve never spoken to him again.
Some dates can make you want to be a nun. Am sure some of you have had it worse than me though,,let’s share in the comments!
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Nice story, I am sure that you will learn something from your experience !
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Oooh,I learnt. Hehe,,thanks for taking your time
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Love the fifteen minutes he left you in the car it’s right to say he had gone to buy CDs 😂😂
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Hehehehe….you might just be right love ,,,,and it was a first date…mwanzo ile part ya,”you remind me of my mother…’gaaaii
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Haha… Don’t you just know how to spin a good story! As always… Keep it up Honey ❤
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Such kind words! Thank you love…so much
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First dates are hard. it’s more common to have bad first dates then good first dates.
Dating in this generation is hard.
Online dating has a negative impact on the dating world
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Veery trueee. Thanks for taking your time
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Haha.. Now this was quite an experience. It was wise for you to leave early. Everyone should be more careful about online dating because most of them turn out in to a really bad experience
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It was a really bad experience,, hehehe.thanks for taking your time dear
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Good work my daughter. Moma loves ypu
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Thanks momaa❤❤😍
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Good on you. Women need to learn how to say no and empower themselves for situation like this.
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Yeaa .You are right ,,! Thanks for talking your time
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Wow! Talk about the date from hell! I would have run away too!😊
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Lol,,,it was too much! 😅😅😅😅😅
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Reblogged this on Alessandria today.
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I read all your articles. Must say, this is the best written Activist, Womanist, Feminist Blog I have ever come across. You drive the points home and it hurts, where it should. Keep posting. Awareness, Blasphemously boldness should shake our society against women exploitation. Regards. Jay
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Wow ,THANK YOU for your kind words and for always taking your time to read. It means so much to me,and I’ll keep at it…❤❤❤
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Thank you.
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Thanks for sharing, hope your next date is far better!.. (I have been trying to follow but unable to do so… WordPress says you have deleted your site 🙂 )….
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Thank you so much…..Alot of people have come to me with the problem,i don’t know why it says so but am working on it
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I understand, not to worry… I can open your site using the link in my email until you get the issue dealt with… have a wonderful day today, and every day!… 🙂
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Thank you for understanding,,❤
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Thanks for your blog work, and for following mine. You are very kind.
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Anytime dear….thanks for following right back.❤
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You are very welcome. Please have a good day.
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So he was pushing you to drink whisky but got himself some weak ass beer? 🙄 Good for you for saying no and walking out, he sounds like he needed a reality check haha
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😂😂😂can you imagine that guy! It was hell,literally..
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Nice BLOG!!!
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Good article! I hope your next date is much better
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Thank you Luisa ❤….i hope so too.
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All i can do is laugh at you girl…. You just made my night.
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Thanks for taking your time dear
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Bedankt om me te volgen en daten moet men ook leren en jij bent zeker een stuk slimmer geworden
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Very out of the box blog you have here, i started reading and it got very interesting. Nice content, would love to read more, Trizah. ♥ Keep up the good work.
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Aaaw,thank you so much…❤ more entertaining stories to come,,
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You’r welcome. And yay😍
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Wow!! That is one for the books for sure! I had never been married until a year ago when I was 49, and I also have a list of the bad ones leading up to.
Keep the faith, beautiful. Your prince will find you and you will live happily ever after. Meanwhile, keep doing you! You’re awesome!! xoxo
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Thank you for taking your time love. I hope my prince comes soon
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Do you know Fung shui?? I have a tip if you like. ☺️
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Am listening dear..😌
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Yes, standing at your front door looking into your home, the furthest corner to the right back is the relationship corner. Clean and tidy, remove and electrics if possible, place a red envelope with a note to the universe describing your best mate. Can be any details you like and be specific. My new husband found mine, at least 10 yes old, and brought it to me. “This is me??!!” What did you do? His words. I am the happiest ever!! xoxo
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For real? He found it? Wow,interesting,,seriously,that’s interesting,,am happy for you❤
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Yes, it was in the drawer. I removed the microwave coffee grinder and coffee maker and put in a sculpture and two joy bowls and forgot about the note. ♥️ Thank you for your happiness!! You can do this too!! xoxo
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Girl, it’s been a minute, but yes, bad dates! Stay strong and keep writing!
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I needed a laugh. Thank you.
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I am so glad i was able to make you laugh. Am so humbled
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Happy to know you. Be sure to create an About page when you have a moment.
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Alright dear.Happy to know you too
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I am too old to have tried online dating, but hear so many awful stories about it these days.
You did the right thing, storming out. 🙂
Thanks for following my blog, which is much appreciated.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Thank you so much Pete,,,for taking your time..❤
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Ah youth! There is no way I would have given my address to someone I had not met. Maybe I’ve watched to much special victim unit. Each experience IS a lesson. “A wise man (or woman) learns from the mistakes of others…” All the best
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Hehehe,,, you are right dear .thank you
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I think WordPress sometimes will alert you but I wanted to make sure you were aware. I enjoyed your dating stories and mentioned you in my last blog post. http://rosalind.life/2018/07/25/the-practical-aspect-of-romance/ Keep up the good work.
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Ooh my God. Thank you so much. I am so humbled
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I like reading and sharing with others. It inspires me. Thank YOU! All the best.
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Called by to leave my thanks for your recent decision to follow Learning from Dogs. Thank you!!
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Anytime Paul..😊😊
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I would not want to be in the dating scene in this era. Too many self interested people. Good riddance to him, I say.
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At first I was laughing, but I started to read, and I had to double check that it wasn’t me you were talking about (or had dated before), haha. Actually on first dates, I prefer to meet up, I drive like I’m being chased, I did wait a couple dates later till my date was ready, I never bring up sex, I take off my sunglasses, I prefer whisky over wine, and yea, an eff’n club!!?? I prefer a place where we can talk, so that I can see if I can annoy you…. if I do, I make my paper mache version of you instead.
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